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Catching Fire (a trip & hubs update)









We are back from Vegas. We've been back since Friday night around 9:30. I've been too pooped out. So has hubs. He finally admitted defeat with this stroke thing hanging over his every move. The trip kicked his ass. And mine, but I've been dealing with health issues longer than he has, so I kinda know my limits and how to plan, etc. It's hard to see him grappling with the fact he isn't able to just jump up and go back to life as he's always known it. He continues to have double vision, and now more than 3 weeks post-stroke, it looks like it might be the thing that lingers for him. He has never been good with dates and numbers, but he's worse now. He had a hearing this morning--he kept mixing up dates, etc. when we were running through the case yesterday, so much so, that I dressed for court too, and was his paralegal this morning. Fortunately, both parties agreed to continue because hubs doesn't have a full set of discovery (all the police documents and text transcripts that the other side possesses, but hubs doesn't yet have).



Looks like we're business partners after all. I'm the husband Uber and paralegal and this is our new norm. Our roles are beginning to switch when it comes to many things...including how we run through cases (I've been doing this with him since 1993). He currently has a case that is heavy on details that mimic minutia, but are actually crucial to the case. (As an example, the level of dust that appeared on a vehicle...that type of minutia.) I've always been more detail-oriented than him, but he always wanted me to build on his ideas in the past. Now I'm his idea Girl Friday and also the one who is more detail driven. In other words, if any of his cases go to trial, I will probably attend with him as his paralegal and we are writing EVERY. TEENY. WEENY. LITTLE. THING. down ahead of time. And, he told me in the past couple of weeks that he is ready to retire. Which was a bit of a shock. He'd always talked about it in "semi-retired" terms and now he's had a wake-up call, so I think he sees the value of enjoying retirement. I was in court this morning, but it was the cattle call for felonies, so I didn't go up front with him and the prosecutor was more than willing to agree to a continuance, so nothing at all was argued today.


Vegas was...Vegas diluted, but still Vegas. I don't travel well, so I had a migraine all of Tuesday. I went down to the lobby once and all the noise from the casino nearly did me in. We stayed at Harrah's, next door to our magician friend, Yort, and his girlfriend. My sister-in-law Donna also went. So, hubs had plenty of people looking after him. I am glad I went just for the fact I notice sometimes before him when he's wearing down. (He still slurs when he is tired.) I had intended to rest my eyeballs and write while we were there. That said, the poetry did NOT flow. I mean, I took some stabs at it, but just wasn't feeling very metaphorical, I suppose. What I really mean to say is that I wrote words, but those words sucked big balls of badness. On a more positive note, my eyes are better now than they've been since before the holidays. Now that we are relying on my vision so very much, I've been resting them more often and staying offline as much as I can tolerate. Doing a lot of analog journaling instead of venting here and not playing games (unless I'm really bored...like on the airplane...). It's helping as much as the steroidal eyedrops, I think.


Possible Hunger Games spoiler alert and I also suck at LJ cuts, so will scroll — a LOT:












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The highlight of our trip was the Hunger Games exhibit at the MGM Grand. Some cool costumes from the movie set, a bit of history from the books that didn't make it onto the big screen (no spoilers, but they did make a bigger deal of the mocking jay pin in this exhibit). They conveniently left out who had given Catniss the pin since the movie and book conflict. Actually, one of the few hangups I had about the movie. I think they wanted to portray her as more isolated in the beginning, but I thought it was HUGE that one of her classmates gave her the pin and not Prim. Couldn't they have gotten an actress for one or two quick scenes? It was one of my favorite parts of the book and to me it foreshadowed the fact that she had many more allies than she ever thought possible, and I feel it gave her strength to do what she needed to do. And yeah, this is much ado about nothing, and overall I'm pleased with how they made the movies, although I still feel that the 4th movie was completely unnecessary-it was written as a trilogy, and I wish they hadn't drawn out the last part into two full movies. I'm sure it was a financial decision, but it made for poor art.) and interactive galleries. There were only two rooms and they estimate most people spend an hour total among the two rooms. They skipped out on the part that you have to wait about 15-20 minutes for the second room, which is where you actually get to shoot a bow & arrow (with a soft tip) at virtual enemies in front of you because we went through the first room with a lot of time to spare. Considering hubs and I don't even have two eyes between us, we were surprisingly accurate. Not at all speedy. Just accurate.




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It's a new week. It's a new normal. A new season (welcome, Spring!! Although, we're getting a wintry mix of yuck today...still SPRING is nearly here!!!!) Hubs and I are as rested up as we could be. Hubs got his first COVID shot on Saturday, I took him to the office and we spent a couple of hours on the case that went to hearing this morning. Otherwise, minimal humaning. 


I'm on husband detail this afternoon, too. He goes to court again at 1pm. I think I'll hang out at one of my favorite coffee houses while he's in court (divorce case--and nothing is being argued today) and maybe attempt some more bad poetry.


ADDENDUM: I can't say that hubs has never done this before, but I do know he is allowing extra time for everything right now due to his wonky vision and inability to drive, and just the extra fatigue he's been experiencing. But. He had court this afternoon. I dropped him off and was going to do the coffee run, but decided last minute to just go home and get some overdue housework done. As soon as I pulled into the driveway, he called me. Wrong county, thus wrong courthouse. He had to do a bunch of quick phone calls and it was another cattle call, so they just put his case towards the end. He ended up 15 minutes late. I know this happens. I've been in the legal industry since the early 90s. Sadly though, hubs is feeling a little defeated by this lapse. Understandably so. I'd be the same way. But, it got me thinking...maybe this whole thing with my own health was so I could blaze a template for him to follow. I've had lupus since 1987, so when hubs & I met in 1993 I was already dealing with autoimmune. (And by dealing with autoimmune, I mean I was ignoring all the autoimmune issues until I couldn't ignore them anymore...I HATE going to the doctor. But, the point definitely came--right around 2000--when I couldn't ignore it anymore and ever since then, I'm just trying to get by and be reasonably human.) I wish I could say I handle my disability with grace, but the truth is, I don't. But, I have a 34 year head start on all that health issues come with.


Tags: bad poetry, big balls of badness, court, covid vaccine, hubs, hunger games, las vegas, poetry, retirement, role reversal, spring
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